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Balancing the Holidays with Care

By: Dr. Cate McCarty


Webster defines balance as an even distribution of weight enabling someone or something to remain upright and steady. Similar words are stability, equilibrium, steadiness and footing.  A diagnosis of dementia can create a great deal of imbalance.  The stability in our lives has slowly deteriorated and the future looks far from grounded.  We may not know what resources are available, what course things could take, where to turn.  We may feel like we are teetering precariously and looking for sure footing. 

Our loved one is expressing similar anxiety and frustration adding more weight to the imbalance.  The overlay of seasonal change and expectation can feel debilitating.  The distribution of weight is tilted and the caregiver’s feeling of overload is heightened.

Logically when we are physically unbalanced we grab for a secure branch, a steady path and an equalizing place to re-establish balance.  Allow Arden Courts to be your stabilizing foundation. 

Whether your overload is about the holidays, about the diagnosis, about self-care, about finding joy even with dementia as a diagnosis---Arden Courts is committed to being your steadfast and grounded memory care community.  Our range of resources for balance reaches across a spectrum of need with a resource library, a telephone support system, educational seminars, memory cafes, support groups, adult day and respite--we have solid evidence-based solutions to give you balance. 

One caregiver shared, Sometimes I feel like a cartoon caricature with my feet running faster than my body.  Using Arden Courts for respite care gives me a chance to let my head catch up to my feet.  I get a chance to put our lives back in order; take a breath and spend time with family.

As the seasons change, balance is re-distributed.  Light becomes dark, holiday expectations overload, our individual equilibrium is jeopardized.  Contact Arden Courts for the resources that can best ground you for the caregiving adventure. 


By-line:  Cate McCarty, PhD, ADC has been collaborating with Arden Courts in a variety of roles since the late 90’s.  Her background in nursing, activities and admissions has given her a passionate commitment to quality of life for the individual and family with dementia.


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